Chris in the USA?
What happened to Bob?
Yeah, this site is Bob in the USA, but today I will be featuring my son, Chris.
Chris is 27 years old. He is a great guy, very popular with everybody that he meets, it seems. In fact, when Chris was young, Feyma and I would always joke with each other that Chris would be a politician someday.
When we moved to the Philippines it was largely about Chris
A lot of people don’t know this, but our original move to the Philippines had a lot to do with Chris.
Chris is disabled
Chris is mentally retarded. He has a learning disability.
When Chris was young, Feyma and I learned that raising a disabled child is a full-time job or more than that. You need a lot of support in handling a situation like that. I come from a relatively small family, and honestly, my family really did not have the time to assist a lot with Chris. I am not mad about that, it just is what it is.
Although we had an interest in living in the Philippines, the fact that we had a large extended family in the Philippines who were willing to assist with Chris was a huge factor in the decision.
This extended family in the Philippines offered great help and assistance for us and for Chris.
The Philippines does not offer much for the disabled
However, when Chris became an adult, it became very apparent that as a country, the Philippines does not have much to offer to a disabled person. They have a PWD Program (Person with a Disability)
Our move back to the USA was largely about Chris
As Chris became an adult, we started realizing that the Philippines offers little for a disabled person. It would be more or less impossible for Chris to get a job. He even had few friends in the Philippines, mostly just family.
Frankly, I never even thought about Chris getting a job because basically, it was not possible in the Philippines, where we lived. However, when we started considering moving back to the USA, my friend told me that the company he works for would likely hire Chris. That really finalized the decision both to move and also where we would move.
Getting a job
Within a few days after our arrival in the USA, Chris and Feyma went to Tyson and applied for a job. They were hired within a couple of days. Very easy, no muss, no fuss. I was amazed and happy for both Chris and Feyma. Mostly for Chris, though. Feyma, I knew, would have no problems getting work. For Chris, getting a job was literally a life-changing event.
When Chris and Feyma started their Orientation and Training at Tyson, we were still a little worried about Chris. How would Chris adjust to working? How would Tyson react to Chris? Would Chris be able to do the things that Tyson assigned him to do? These were concerns.
Having a job has been a huge thing for Chris. He is so happy and proud. You can see the pride and self-worth in his face. He feels that he is needed by Tyson to do the jobs they give him. He is also treated well by the company and his co-workers alike.
Chris looks forward to going to work every day. He is tired when he gets home, but proud. I am also very proud of him!
How has Tyson reacted to Chris? Fantastic. They treat Chris so well! The other day, his boss went to him and asked if they could have lunch together. So, they had lunch, shared each other’s food, talked and had a good time. In fact, at the end of the lunch, the boss asked Chris if they could eat together the next day as well!
I told Chris that if he keeps it up he might be the “big boss” of the plant someday. He smiled.
Additionally, Chris has so many friends at Tyson now! The other day, we went to Walmart around midnight to buy our groceries. We liked to go at that time because it is not busy and it is quick and easy to get the shopping done. Well, that is right around the time that the second shift gets off at Tyson. We started seeing a lot of Tyson workers come into Walmart and they all came over to talk to Chris, say hi, give him a high-five, etc. It was really touching and made me feel good to see how well, how loved Chris was!
Can Chris do the job?
Well, I am not there to see, but from all indication, Chris is doing well at Tyson. Feyma and I are so proud of him and he is proud of himself too. I believe, based on the way things are going, that Chris’s position is secure at Tyson. That will be good for him, very good. He is becoming more normal, meaning that he fits into society here more than he was able to in the Philippines (as an adult).
Last week when Chris got paid for the first time, it was like he didn’t even realize that he would get money for working at Tyson! He couldn’t believe it that he had his own money and the amount of money he had after working for just one week. It was really a good feeling to see him when he realized that he got paid!
His pay was a direct deposit onto a debit card. The next day, I took his debit card and got some cash for him. He was so happy to have some dollars in his wallet. From time to time he would get his wallet out of his pocket, take the money out and just look at it! It was still so amazing to him that he was actually getting money by working. Haha. Made me feel so good.
So, anyway, that is how Chris is doing in the USA. Honestly, he is really flourishing here. He is becoming a different person, a better person. He has so many friends, a job, and a very normal lifestyle!
I’m proud of you Chris. Moving here was worth it big time for me, just seeing how you are doing. Doing the right thing for my family is always worth it!