I’ve been living back in the States for 9 months
Where do things stand?
After living for nearly 2 decades in the Philippines, I arrived back in the USA on January 17, 2019 along with my wife and one of my sons. The other two sons had already been living in the States before we came back.
So, we’ve been living here for a little over 9 months now.
How are things going?
Well, I would say that things are going quite well. For Feyma and all of our kids, things are going great. They all have good jobs and are well adjusted to life in the States.
Things are going pretty well for me as well. I have a good business going, doing work that I enjoy and is profitable. I like my life here. My only real issue with living back in the States is loneliness, which I am dealing with.
Overall, I would say that as a family we are doing great. All of us are productive and enjoying our lives.
Will I go back and live in the Philippines?
This is a question that I hear often, at least once a week.
The answer is… I will never say never. But, I think it is unlikely that I will ever go back and live in the Philippines. I am not against the Philippines, I had a great life there. I like the country and have pleasant memories of life in the Philippines.
If my life was so good, why would I not move back? Well, I’ve done it already. I am ready for some new things. Right now, living in Indiana is new, and I am enjoying experiencing the changes and differences from other places I’ve lived in my life. So, the reason I probably will not move back to the Philippines is this – “been there… done that.”
Why did you leave the Philippines?
I have gotten so many inquiries about this. Many times every week I hear this question.
A while back a guy that I don’t know sent me an email anonymously. It was so ludicrous that it is funny. He claimed that I was wanted in the Philippines and had to rush out of the country before the law caught up with me. LoL. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Off the top of my head, here are some of the reasons we decided to leave the Philippines:
- We had lived there for a long time and were ready for a change.
- My wife wanted to work in the USA for long enough to earn her own Social Security.
- My son had a lot of opportunities here compared to no opportunity in the Philippines, read this article to learn what I am talking about.
- Time for a new adventure.
- My wife told me that she really wanted to go back and live in the States, and I told her that it was her turn, and I supported her in that decision.
Some great things we are experiencing
Here are some things that we are experiencing after 9 months in the USA, these are things that we are enjoying.
It is our first fall/autumn in 20 years. We last experienced fall in 1999 in Washington. Fall is different in Indiana, and at first, we thought it was not looking too nice.
But, this week, the trees seemed to come to “life” color-wise. The colors were a little dull and seemingly slow to come until this week. This week, though, the colors are very nice, and we are enjoying it.
Last weekend, Feyma and I went out for coffee one day and ended up having a really nice discussion. We talked for a long time, and mostly we talked about her job. She got a new job a month or more ago, and she is really enjoying that. Feyma was talking about her future plans with her work, her goals, and such.
I really enjoyed seeing her showing some ambition to move up at Tyson, and do a good job there. I do know that she has developed a reputation for being a very smart hard worker there, and I am so proud of her.
I am doing Pallet Flipping. Basically, I buy pallets of liquidation merchandise from various sources, then I sell those things on eBay and other venues. It is a lot of fun, I enjoy it a lot. It brings me back to my roots in retail.
I got started in retail when I was 15 years old and worked in retail for many years until I became self-employed in 1991. Doing this pallet flipping really brings me back to things I was doing for many years, and I always enjoyed doing.
After becoming self-employed, I quickly got into eCommerce, and pallet flipping is a combination of brick and mortar type retailing and online retailing. It is a perfect fit for me.
Life in general
We are enjoying life in general. Unless Feyma works overtime on Saturdays, we usually choose a place to go for a road trip each weekend. We want to explore our new home state and new home country.
We have enjoyed traveling around the State, and also went over to visit a friend in Illinois a while back.
Here are some of the highlights of our 9 months of a new life in the States.
- Experienced winter and snow for the first time in 2 decades
- Got a driver’s license in May
- Bought a car in June
- Jobs for Feyma and our kids
- My new business
- Meeting new friends
Things we are looking forward to.
- First snow of this coming winter.
- Hoping for a white Christmas.
- Planning to buy a house next year sometime.
- Continued success and enjoyment of life.
So, how are we doing after 9 months?
Really, we are doing well! We are enjoying the new life that we chose. We made the right choice!
Glad to hear your update. I am in the Philippines for two months now and think of you. I must admit that the relationships/friendships here are all around you it seems all the time and it is one of the things i miss when I return to Canada. Understand how you feel about being lonely. Glad you are enjoying life in your new home.
Hi Della, I saw on FB the other day or a week ago or something that you were on your way or had arrived in the Philippines. I hope you have a good and productive trip.
In our house, we always had a lot of kids around, and I miss that. Here, in the evenings I am home alone while everybody is at work. I am working too, but I work at home, so it gets a bit quiet around here. 🙂
Great you are enjoying Indiana and everyone is fine doing their activities. Will be in USA with Kathleen last 2 weeks of May. Regards to Feyma and the boys
Good to hear from you RK. If you are near Indiana, swing by for a visit! Enjoy your trip.
Missing you and Feyma, pare. But I am glad to know that you are doing great there. Hope to visit you soon. Ingat always.
Hey, that would be great if you would come and visit. if you are ever in this part of the United States, you’re always welcome to come by. It would be nice to see you. I hope you are doing well there. Thanks for reading my article.
I am so glad that this is working out for you and for your family!
Thank you, Tom.
Great to hear all is well for the Martin family. I understand the lonely nights when everybody is working. Nothing better than great family time for sure. All the best !!
Hi Michael – thanks for reading the article and leaving a comment. Yes, I really enjoy family time, and in particular, I enjoy alone time with my wife. It means a lot to just spend time talking about relationship things, personal stuff between us. It strengthens our relationship and is good for us.
Ralph Edward Castillo
That is great to hear Bob, the family has made the adjustment to living in USA. Your health is good , God Bless ,have a Merry Christmas and NewYear 2020.
Hi Ralph – Very nice to hear from you, it’s been a while! I wish the best to you guys!
Yes, we are doing well here. I am still adjusting in some ways, but I will make it! We feel strongly that we made the right move.
All the best to you!
Hi Bob, Glad to hear you have all settled back in the US and importantly your doing well health wise. We also returned to the UK and have also settled back in but being retired we donT have to worry about getting up for work in the morning now that the colder weather has arrived. Take care and give our best to Feyma and family. Jim & Marilou.
Hi Jim, thanks for your message. Yes, we are getting well settled in. We’ve been here for about 11 months now, well, really 10 1/2. LoL. It’s getting cold here too, we’ve had snow 3 times in the past few weeks!
It is only good to live in the Philippines if you are retired already and received a monthly good pension and If you belong to a wealthy business tycoon Family
well, if that is what you think, so be it. I moved there when I was 38. I lived there for nearly 20 years. Did fine. I was not retired and had no monthly pension or anything.
What did you do to earn a living?
What do I do for a living?
I have written more than 200 books, which sell on Amazon and my own websites.
I have developed 3 different online courses. My courses sell on their own websites, and also on Amazon.
I have multiple websites that make money from Affiliate Marketing.
I buy pallets of wholesale and customer returns from Amazon and other retailers and flip the stuff on eBay, Facebook Marketplace and other selling sites.
I do consulting.
I sell other products online (throwaway tickets, Kodi equipment and other things).
What do you do?